Njengoko kuba abantwana, bathi, abekho a necessity
Li kwaye Hu baba grad esikolweni classmates xa kokuba kuqaliswe dating umva ngo
Emva graduation, u-ngokukhawuleza zifunyenweyo imisebenzi, wathenga indlu, ifumene watshata, kwaye ube sowuzinzile phantsi Beirut, ekwenzeni kubo umona zabo abahlobo nosapho emva ekhaya.
Zombini hailed ukusuka encinane, ngaphantsi iphumelele izixeko kwi-China ke, umntla mpuma.
Imfundo waba zabo ucango ukuba loluntu _ephathwayo, kulungile-ihlawulwe imisebenzi, kwaye ubomi njengoko"Entsha Beijingers."Ulutsha ezimbalwa kugqitywe phambi kwexesha ngomhla ukuba abo babefuna a ebizwa-DINK ("phinda-phinda umvuzo, akukho abantwana") ukuzonwabisa.
Xa mna udliwano-ndlebe nabo ngenxa yam uphando, aye wabonakalisa jikelele dislike abantwana kwaye nzulu ukuqonda uxanduva kwaye iingxaki ukuba kuza kunye ukukhulisa umntwana.
Kwi-zabo ezincinane usapho, yeemvakalelo zakho bond phakathi kwendoda nomfazi yeyona nto ibalulekileyo bonke. Nangona kunjalo, msinyane Li kwaye Hu batshata, abazali, izihlobo, kwaye co-abasebenzi ngokufanayo chastised zabo dim imboniselo ka-parenthood."Ekubeni umntwana kuphela indlela ukwenza ubomi bakho uzalise,"ke ukuziphatha ngendlela eqhelekileyo."Ke ayisosine a real usapho de kufuneka umntwana,"abanye wabaxelela."Ukuba ukhe ubene ezingayi kuba kid, kutheni nkqu get watshata kwindawo yokuqala."Emva iminyaka emithathu intsingiselo peer koxinzelelo, ezimbalwa ke sombulula waphula. Li wanika wokuzalwa yabo intombi kwiminyaka emithathu edlulileyo. I-ezimbalwa cofa i-frank umboniso yabo ngoku ubomi babantu."Thina? bahlala ngokungathi sasivuya a DINK usapho,"Li utshilo."Sanika zethu umntwana wethu abazali ukuba nyusa, xa ubomi bethu bahlala iphakathi jikelele nganye enye. Baba hounding kuthi malunga nayo constantly.
Thina figured ekubeni omnye ingaba asiphe abanye uxolo kwaye uzole."Amandla umntwana-rearing inkcubeko kwi-China ngu ezinjalo ukuze ube sele banyanzeleka ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi ukuba cede emhlabeni ukuba omnye phakathi umzali kwaye umntwana.
Akuvumelekanga uncommon ukuya kuva Isitshayina couples abantliziyo umtshato sele segolide ukuba zikho kuyo yonke kodwa igama, kodwa abo hlala watshata"ngenxa umntwana."Nangona elithi"DINK"imihla kwi, unye wenziwe inokwenza ukuba babambisa kwi kwi-China. I-kokuhluma ka-DINK couples, abo bathe iityuwadefault colour imivuzo kwaye khetha hayi kuba abantwana, sele inikwa kulutsha ngakumbi igumbi ukwenza kwezabo nemigaqo yokusebenzisa imichiza ngaphakathi marital indlela. Nangona kunjalo, Isitshayina couples abo khetha ukuhlala childless kwakhona ubuso tremendous koxinzelelo ukuqhubeka usapho umgca. Kwi-esiqhelekileyo Isitshayina inkcubeko, umtshato kwaye childbirth ingaba collective imisebenzi.
Omnye kakuhle-ezaziwayo esithi ukusuka Mencius, yamandulo Isitshayina philosopher, amabango ukuba asingabo ngokulima i-indoda indlalifa ukuba usapho lelona unfilial nto a ezimbalwa ayenze.
Namhlanje, childbearing ingu ebone njengoko inqununu imbono womtshato. Ungquzulwano phakathi tradition kwaye kwizinto zala maxesha characterizes ubomi babantu abaninzi Isitshayina kuzalwa emva ukwaziswa ngenye-umntwana mgaqo-nkqubo kwi. Njengoko esi sizukulwana lukhule mdala ngokwaneleyo enye kwaye ingaba abantwana kwezabo, iindlela zabo nemigangatho ngokukhetha i iqabane lakho, kwaye uhlobo zabo marital budlelwane nabanye, lukhule kujike diverse. Oku shift ngu inseparable ukususela loluntu utshintsho ukuba yenzekile kwi-China ngexesha elinye-umntwana kwisizukulwana ke formative eminyaka, njengoko eli lizwe rapidly waya kwi i-insular, kwakucwangcisiwe socialist urhulumente globalized kwimakethi kuqoqosho. Abaninzi abo wakhulela phambi komhlaba era ka-? bakholisa ukuba isakhelo umtshato kwaye procreation njengoko a igalelo elikhulu socialist umatshini, ngexesha namhlanje ke youngsters zithe wavusa kwi yezosondlo nganye nganye oyikhethileyo nentlonipho kuba yeemvakalelo zakho fulfilment phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Ngaphezu koko, isizukulwana ka kuphela abantwana bafumana ezongezelelweyo uncedo nenkxaso evela iintsapho zabo, kunye abo baqhubeka yabo ubomi izicwangciso phakathi ixesha ngamandla urbanization. I-immense strain ka-ukhuphiswano made ukuthenga indlu, ukufumana umsebenzi, kwaye yokufumana watshata, kokukhona ngesehlo soxinezelelo kwixesha. Kunye akukho nabantakwethu ukuba distract ingqalelo kude kubo, i-' kwisizukulwana beza phantsi ukwanda parental koxinzelelo kuba abantwana, nkqu nokuba enjalo iimfuno baba staunchly e odds kunye yintoni abanye kwabo bafuna. Abo khetha DINK ukuzonwabisa ukwenza njalo kuba ngezixhobo ezahlukeneyo izizathu. Abanye ithemba ukuphepha iindleko ukukhulisa abantwana kwaye bathi balandele kwezabo personal uphuhliso. Abanye zichaziwe a banqwenela ukuba bavukela ngokuchasene esiqhelekileyo umntwana-rearing inkcubeko, yethutyana malunga ihlabathi abantwana babo baya kuwudla ilifa bona, okanye ukukholwa ukuba kuphela abafazi unokugqiba ntoni ukwenza kunye imizimba yabo. Noko ke, abaninzi ezi couples ekugqibeleni buckle phantsi koxinzelelo ka-esiqhelekileyo beliefs okanye peer koxinzelelo. Ekubeni abantwana ngu-ukuvula ukuba negotiation nibe ngokunjalo bayibize"involuntary ukutyeba komhlaba"kwaye kwakamsinyane yi-baby weaned kunokuba yinto bekelela ngaphandle ukuba layo oomawomkhulu' indlu kuba wavusa. Ndine dubbed oku phenomenon zabazali abo abuyela yoqobo, ezimbalwa-centric ubomi babo xa umntwana wabo ngu kuzalwa"inkqubo ephantsi-DINK"ukuzonwabisa. I-involuntary ukutyeba komhlaba ka-inkqubo engaphantsi-DINKs, kwaye kungokuzithandela infertility ka-bona fide DINKs, kunye isikhondo ukusuka oyedwa umnqweno ukuphepha falling pregnant kwaye zinika zokuzalwa. Nangona kunjalo, inkqubo ephantsi-DINK ndlela yokusebenza iza kunye eyakhe misela ka-mngeni kwaye iingxaki. Ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva, ezimbalwa ke, abazali baya ubudala kwaye kufa, shattering usapho ke wamisa budlelwane nabanye. Inkqubo ephantsi-DINK amalungiselelo kanjalo wenza iingxaki kuba komntwana psychological uphuhliso kunye estranges abazali ukusuka umntwana wabo ke upbringing. Eziqhelekileyo DINK imodeli ngu emancipatory ngenxa yokuba umele i-expansion nganye nganye oyikhethileyo. Kwi-u -umntwana nkqubo China, isigqibo kuba abantwana kufuneka oyikhethileyo eyenziwe oyedwa okanye ezimbalwa, hayi ukuyinyamezela into ngaphandle capitulation ukuba koxinzelelo. Kwi-umahluko, inkqubo ephantsi-DINK ukuzonwabisa ufumana i-unfortunate kwaye untenable kuchitha phakathi esiqhelekileyo Isitshayina usapho norms kwaye bale mihla loluntu amaxabiso: Ndivuma abazali okanye abantwana kuxhamla fobbing ngaphandle i-kid baya musa nyani ukuba yayo oomawomkhulu.
Kwi end, inkqubo ephantsi-DINK couples inevitably ukufunda ukuze babe andinaku kuba zabo cake kwaye kudla kuyo, kakhulu.
(Header umfanekiso: Isitshayina newlyweds posename kuba wedding iifoto kufutshane Bund kwi-i-shanghai, julayi. Wang Chen Sixth Tone).
